Some people can find it difficult to say ‘no’. They may assume that it is impolite to refuse a request, whether that is an invitation to a social event or to be asked for information. Saying ‘yes’ is fine, so long as you are happy in complying with the request. The problem comes when you say […]
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Toxic behaviour usually emanates from someone with deep wounding from their personal history. The person is not able to take responsibility for their feelings, attitude, their needs and their consequent emotional problems. Their interactions with others, particularly within organisations, is characterised at times by tense and hostile communication. You know you are around a person
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We are living through an era of massive social change as technology continues to advance and we struggle to adjust ourselves with the pace of change. The so-called information age, or digital age, was supposed to make us all feel more connected. However, more and more of us are feeling lonelier and lonelier. The writer
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The accomplished Irish playwright George Bernard Shaw once said “Life is not about finding yourself, it is about creating yourself”. I love this quote. As you face challenges in life it can be fruitful to ask yourself which qualities would you most like to acquire. Working in teams and reporting to more senior figures in a hierarchical
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The term ‘half-nighter’ has been recently coined to describe supposed new behaviour that is essentially a one night stand, without staying the night. None of this is new, however, as people have been having casual sex and departing before the sleep bit for donkey years. What might be new is the increased prevalence of ‘half-nighters’ when
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Are you in a relationship with someone who has an active addiction? Addiction can be chemical, alcohol and drugs, as well as behavioural, such as gambling and sex/porn. It can be difficult to know what to do and what to say when someone so close to you is losing themselves in a web of destruction.
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It can be very stressful dealing with toxic people whether in the workplace, family or in social circles. The key is to identify a toxic person before you trust them with too much of your personal material.Narcissism is different to toxic behaviour. Whilst all narcissists are toxic, not all toxic people are narcissists. See this blog
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In terms of sexuality, what distinguishes us, as humans, from others in the animal kingdom is our capacity for an erotic life. Couples who maintain a happy long term sexual relationship tend to allow each other erotic privacy. Affairs can be an expression of a need for emotional intimacy or to form a connection. This
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Bullies are essentially cowards. They will not want to acknowledge their aggressive and offensive behaviour but will be intent on deflecting the attention back on you. So, in common with other toxic types, when confronted they will deny, dismiss, ignore and try to make out that you are the one with the problem, or that
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We do not arrive in adulthood with a perfectly formed state of emotional well-being. Often, we carry around baggage to varying degrees of weight from our past, whether that is from our childhood, early experiences at work or from our family dynamics. Past events can impact on how we interact in the present and can influence
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