The latest Ask Annalisa article in the Guardian concerns a reader’s personal problem about guilt after ghosting a friend. This week it was about someone who had ghosted a friend of a few years following an outburst against them as they didn’t know what else to do. I was asked by journalist Annalisa Barbieri
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articlesMy latest article on addressing relationship problems has been published on the Counselling Directory website. Setting healthy boundaries can potentially help to keep us safe when dealing with others, whether this in the romantic sphere, social setting, family environment or work space. But setting boundaries and enforcing them are often two very different challenges. To
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articlesToday I was interviewed by Shay Kaur Grewal on BBC Radio London about relationships (see embedded link) and specifically when seeking to rekindle sparks in long term relationships. In the interview we discussed how date nights can work and what couples might be experiencing when approaching therapists for help in their relationship. Noel Bell is
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TheoryToday I chatted with counsellor Tricia Ibe, about the topic of affairs and specifically about being the other woman in an affair (with a married man) who is single, which can be the other side of infidelity as it tends to have less focus, and perhaps much less sympathy than the betrayed wife. Her article
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InterviewToday I chatted with Laura Heck, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Certified Gottman Therapist in private practice in Salt Lake City. (See below for a link to the interview). Previously director of development at the Gottman Institute, Laura co-developed the Gottman 7 principles programme and is also the author of the 7 principles workbook.
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InterviewWe do not arrive in adulthood with a perfectly formed state of emotional well-being. Often, we carry around baggage to varying degrees of weight from our past, whether that is from our childhood, early experiences at work or from our family dynamics. Past events can impact on how we interact in the present and can influence
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articlesMy latest article on relationship issues has been published on the Counselling Directory website. The article addresses the difficulties that present when one person becomes overly parental in the relationship and what needs to happen when sex stops occurring in the union. To read the article please click here.
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TheoryCo-dependence is: ‘A painful internal state of low-grade chronic depression which is literally precipitated by intense and chronic mourning for our authentic selves’ John Bradshaw A LIFE OF OTHER-ATION This week’s lecture (and the final one of this term) was on codependence. The lecture series has been an interesting one this term given the focus on addictions
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TheoryWe had a fascinating lecture on couples therapy this week. This followed our weekend on sexual abuse. The lecture addressed the issues involved when the day of reckoning came for all relationships. The reckoning day is when the honeymoon period ends (and this can vary as a time-span from couple to couple) and when the
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TheoryThe different initiations in a relationship was part of the alchemy of relationships weekend. What happens when you first fall in love? You see something of the ideal or you project your ideal. So what is the ideal, what are you projecting? Your own higher self is being projected onto that person. You are idolising
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