It is by the practice of a good habit that gradually outweighs the power of a bad habit. This truism is probably even more pertinent at this time of year when it is common to evaluate lifestyle options and to assert new goals in an attempt to bring about behavioural change. New year resolutions tend […]
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I am quoted in the latest Ask Annalisa article in the Guardian in response to a letter from a reader seeking advice about a friendship of 20 years. The reader had asked whether or not she should cut off her friend, as her friend only ever talks about herself. Being in avoidance mode, the reader
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Attached is my latest article about how to boost self-regulation and, thereby, how to overcome bad stress. It is important to remember that stress is not something we can really eradicate. Without some form of stress we might be bored senseless. That is why a distinction between good and bad stress can be useful. Good
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I am quoted in the attached article by Kia-Elise Green from the iPAPER about the influence of social media, and specifically, the effects on the Gen Z generation and their ability to be able to engage in conversation. See the attached link for my quotes. If you listen to any of the legislative chamber investigations
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Loss chasing typically defines the transition from recreational gambling to disordered gambling. It is the tendency of a gambler to amplify their betting in an effort to recoup prior losses. Loss chasing for traders and gamblers occurs when discipline to a pre-determined strategy is abandoned in favour of a more aggressive approach. When traders review
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Here’s how to spot when your friend has become an emotional drain. The conversation tends to increasingly become all about them No matter what success you may have had, such as a new job, a new relationship, or a new house move, for example, they will twist your news and only see the perceived negative
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I have often wondered why there are so many approaches and new theories that emerge so regularly in the world of counselling and psychotherapy. By the latest estimates, there are over 500 different types of psychotherapy approaches, all seemingly offering the silver bullet that can prove the difference when in pursuit of uniqueness and excellence. One
My latest article on addressing relationship problems has been published on the Counselling Directory website. Setting healthy boundaries can potentially help to keep us safe when dealing with others, whether this in the romantic sphere, social setting, family environment or work space. But setting boundaries and enforcing them are often two very different challenges. To
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What’s this, a post about being a skilled ‘problem gambler’, surely a dichotomy of terms? However, there can be many misconceptions held by counsellors and therapists seeking to treat problem gamblers. One such misconception is to treat them all as mere ‘mug punters’, since in seeking to beat the house, they are seen to be
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I was quoted in an article that appeared in the Independent (attached, by clicking on the image) about grief, and specifically the death of a work colleague. This story followed the news that Stephen Colbert, the Late Show host on CBS in the USA, was mourning the loss during a show of his long-time colleague
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