Are you encountering problems with your primary relationship?
Couples are increasingly seeking counselling services given the increased stresses and demands of the modern world, busy careers, childcare responsibilities and the consequential impact on personal relationships.
Biological anthropologist Helen Fisher proposed a useful map for understanding the stages of love; lust, romantic and attachment love. The most challenging stage is attachment when the real work of emotional intimacy starts and when the connection deepens. Watch Helen Fisher’s Tedtalk presentation for more information about what happens with the brain and love. See also Esther Perel and The secret to desire in a long-term relationship.
There are many different initiations in relationships. Things can often be fine until you discover a bad habit in your partner when the ideal gives way to reality. Then the work begins to address what is really happening. In practice, what often happens is that you stop communicating. The key in couples counselling is to start talking to each other again.
How many times have we heard people say You are not the person I feel in love with? In a relationship you are being challenged to engage in unconditional love and the challenge is to open the communication channels once again.
Noel Bell is an integrative psychotherapist and is registered and accredited as a clinical psychotherapist with the United Kingdom Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP). The UKCP is the UK’s professional body for the education, training and accreditation of psychotherapists.. Call Noel now on 07852 407140